I Was Propositioned This Past Weekend

A friend of mine asked me to have a threesome with him and a girl that he knows would be down to have a threesome with us...

My first reaction was: "Who is the girl?"

He tells me her name and then I realize that I've seen or heard that name before. It is a girl that he currently talks to or has sex with, whatever. But he doesn't know I know of her. (His text message alert went off on his phone and we have the same ringtone for texts and the same phone so I thought it was mine and without really looking at the phone, I saw a text from a girl that read "hey babe, you didn't call me back...blah blah blah")

Second Reaction: "Have you fucked her?"

His answer was "No," and then I asked again, "Have you fucked her?" His second chance answer was then changed to "Yes." Why he lied the first time, I don't know. But I did think it was kinda cute that he felt he should lie to me. But what he doesn't know is I know he has sex with other girls. He is not my boyfriend so he is allowed to do what he wants. I found it cute that he lied because that tells me he somewhat cares about my feelings. Or either he thought I was gonna spaz out if I found out he was fucking some other girl. SO NOT MY STYLE. And it was obvious that he had sex with her before because if he didn't then he wouldn't have been so sure that she would have a threesome with us. DUH!! I have to remind him sometime that I am NOT a dummy. I can put 2 and 2 together.

Third Reaction: "Call her up"

I said this only to see what his next move was going to be. Being that it was already like 5 am, he replied "No. Some people sleep at night, unlike you." HILARIOUS. And then he proceeds to tell me that he is a freak, (like I didn't already know that), and that he wants to have a threesome before he decided to "settle down."

Fourth Reaction: "I'm not having a threesome with you."

This probably broke his heart. But my reasons for saying No to him make sense to me. For one, having a threesome with a girl that he talks to would be awkward for obvious reasons. If we both talk to him then who gets to stay once the threesome is over? And Im not leaving, and we're both not staying cause he is NOT a pimp, and I won't give him any more bragging rights than a threesome would already give him.

Then he was just a little too excited when I didn't instantly shut down the idea of a threesome. I'm not a prude, so if I were to ever engage in a threesome, I would rather it be with a Boyfriend or someone who is damn near my boyfriend (without the title type thing). And he is NOT currently anything close to a boyfriend, even though we act like boyfriend/girlfriend when we are around each other. I don't know, he was just TOO excited.

In Conclusion

I have a rule that when dealing with guys who aren't my boyfriend, I can't give them too much. You can't get ALL the perks at once, you have to earn them. Because if we do everything that boyfriend/girlfriends do without actually being BF/GF, then he will feel that theres no need for him to "settle down" with me. I let him know that I like him, and that Im not on his shit either. I do this by going home with him when I leave the club, but also letting him know how many times I gave my number out that night. Or I answer my phone whether he is around or not, but I don't talk long so I remain respectful. Or if I have to, I do the "Super Ultra Ultra Sexy" thing where I get all dolled up to go out, making sure that he sees how Sexy I'm looking, and show him he shouldn't take all this fineness for granted. But then I do things like fix him breakfast, give massages, all the sweet stuff. But not spoiling him, just giving him a taste of what he could have.

And point blank, I think a Threesome would be spoiling him. So until we advance in our relationship, No Threesome action for him. Sorry boo.