The takeover, the breaks over, homie, God MC, ME, J-HOVA...
That has nothing to do with what I came here to write, it was just on my mind, so I decided to write it. What I came to talk about is Chameleons. Not necessarily the animal, but the metaphorical use of the term chameleon to describe a person. Lets take a look at what Wikipedia has to say about describing a person as a chameleon...
No True Values
In my experience people who act as chameleons don't really have any set values that they live their life by. A person could pretty much convince them to do just about anything. I don't mean anything drastic such as killing someone, but something that really bares no extenuating consequences, yes.
Abandons & Convenient
It is almost certain that a person with chameleon like qualities will no doubt take the opportunity to abandon you if the situation is convenient for them. Because I have found that they usually don't care about anybody but themselves. They may appear as friends, as long as it is of some type of benefit to them. But when they see an opportunity that they think is better than what you can offer them, they are quick to leave you high and dry, usually with no explanation.
Conclusion
I, on the other hand, have been taught, or either through experience, have been conditioned to think of others, as well as myself, when in situations where both people matter. I would never do anything without asking if my accompanying party is comfortable with the decision I am making. Because I believe that if you're with me, you should at least be comfortable. And I will go out of my way to ensure your comfortability(?). Or if you're with me, I would never put the needs of myself before the needs of everyone as a whole. But I will also let you know what you're getting into with me from the beginning so there will be no surprises. I am a fairly consistent medium emotion person. What you see is what you get. You can expect that how I was yesterday is going to be how am I tomorrow, and every day after that. And I've had to learn that not everybody is like that.
So in conclusion, I've come to recognize the chameleons who I've let into my life, even if only for a glimpse (Even though I rarely give anyone outside my family and good friend the full screening).
Advice
Nobody can view themselves as other people do (I wish we could though). You can only hope that you have people around you who aren't afraid to let you know when you are stepping outside of your boundaries. (my mom takes on that role for me) But thats rarely the case. So just as a tip, its okay to think about others sometime. I faithfully live by the rule that I live for me, and not anybody, and that I am the only person who really matters to myself. BUT I do live with other people in the world, and I like people, and I like people who like me back. So to make people like me back, I treat them as I treat myself. With concern for their feelings and well-being. Nobody likes to have their flaws thrown in their face, but the sooner you recognize that you're not being the best person you can be, the quicker you can make the effort to change it.
In other words, Nobody likes a selfish ass bitch/nigga. So Stop It.
That has nothing to do with what I came here to write, it was just on my mind, so I decided to write it. What I came to talk about is Chameleons. Not necessarily the animal, but the metaphorical use of the term chameleon to describe a person. Lets take a look at what Wikipedia has to say about describing a person as a chameleon...
Lets now take a look and pick apart this descriptive definiton. A few key phrases I would like to go in-depth about are "no true values," "abandons," and "convenient.""When a person is described as chameleon, the reference to the animal is generally a commentary on the person's ability to blend into various social situations, often to mean the person has no true values, or that he quickly abandons them in company if it's convenient to do so."
No True Values
In my experience people who act as chameleons don't really have any set values that they live their life by. A person could pretty much convince them to do just about anything. I don't mean anything drastic such as killing someone, but something that really bares no extenuating consequences, yes.
Abandons & Convenient
It is almost certain that a person with chameleon like qualities will no doubt take the opportunity to abandon you if the situation is convenient for them. Because I have found that they usually don't care about anybody but themselves. They may appear as friends, as long as it is of some type of benefit to them. But when they see an opportunity that they think is better than what you can offer them, they are quick to leave you high and dry, usually with no explanation.
Conclusion
I, on the other hand, have been taught, or either through experience, have been conditioned to think of others, as well as myself, when in situations where both people matter. I would never do anything without asking if my accompanying party is comfortable with the decision I am making. Because I believe that if you're with me, you should at least be comfortable. And I will go out of my way to ensure your comfortability(?). Or if you're with me, I would never put the needs of myself before the needs of everyone as a whole. But I will also let you know what you're getting into with me from the beginning so there will be no surprises. I am a fairly consistent medium emotion person. What you see is what you get. You can expect that how I was yesterday is going to be how am I tomorrow, and every day after that. And I've had to learn that not everybody is like that.
So in conclusion, I've come to recognize the chameleons who I've let into my life, even if only for a glimpse (Even though I rarely give anyone outside my family and good friend the full screening).
Advice
Nobody can view themselves as other people do (I wish we could though). You can only hope that you have people around you who aren't afraid to let you know when you are stepping outside of your boundaries. (my mom takes on that role for me) But thats rarely the case. So just as a tip, its okay to think about others sometime. I faithfully live by the rule that I live for me, and not anybody, and that I am the only person who really matters to myself. BUT I do live with other people in the world, and I like people, and I like people who like me back. So to make people like me back, I treat them as I treat myself. With concern for their feelings and well-being. Nobody likes to have their flaws thrown in their face, but the sooner you recognize that you're not being the best person you can be, the quicker you can make the effort to change it.
In other words, Nobody likes a selfish ass bitch/nigga. So Stop It.
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